Can there ever be too much love in your life? I declare that it is impossible to have too much love in your life. But wait, one might say, “Haven’t you every been smothered by a helicopter mother who hovers over you, second guessing your every decision, and willingly dispensing (unsolicited) life advice?” Or, haven’t you ever been plagued with a boss at work who is a micro-manager, serving for all practical purposes as a helicopter mother when she can’t look over your shoulder on the job?
IMHO neither of those particular instances are examples of love; rather they are examples of people who are working out their own inadequacies by projecting their insecurities upon you.
Well, then you might ask,”What then, are you calling “Love” that one can never get enough of?” Try checking out the Biblical definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:
“4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends.”
After reading the scripture quoted above, the difference when compared to “smothering, micro-managing engagement” in another persons life, is painfully obvious, right? Scripture gives us numerous examples pertaining to maintaining proper relationships with our family and with our neighbor. If only we would pay attention, eh? It is hard for the average human to engage another in conversation without exhibiting our own painfully ingrained shortcomings. Our own inadequacies, fears, idiosyncrasies go on display. Have you ever tried to carry on a conversation with someone who won’t look you in the eyes? They may look at you when you are talking, but when their mouth opens in reply their eyes immediately start roaming everywhere but on your own eyes. I often wondered if this is exhibiting someone’s own inadequacies (they don’t want to look at you for fear of seeing disapproval or judgmental-ism, or disbelief) or whether it is a sign of untruthfulness as a lifestyle, and they are afraid if they look into your eyes while speaking, you will “see right through them” so to speak. Or are they simply shy and find it difficult to engage a person directly for unknown reasons.
In any case, the correct attitude or response on our part might well be found in 1 Corinthians 13.
A quick re-read of these verses before responding in the “comments” section of a blog might help moderate the language at the very least.
‘Til next time I am a Prisoner of Christ.